February is love month and it’s time to heat things up, reconnect, and experience the oh-so-many reasons you married him in the first place (since the alternative isn’t any fun at all, not to mention expensive.) We’re all different,  and we all love differently, so it’s important to understand your partner’s needs and wants so you’ll be able to give him love he’ll feel and appreciate. Then, get ready, because when he feels the love, it gets reflected right back your way. So what type of lover is he anyway? Here are five “love types” to help you get to know your man better – and make playing the game of life together even more fresh and fun.

TheGiverThe GIVER: He loves to give you things, and if you know that, you’ll thank him no matter how amazing or hideous the gift. He gets off on praise and validation, so make sure to show him how appreciative you are about what he does and says, how hard he works, how his hair looks…you get the picture.

The DOER: This is the guys’ guy, and he really feels like a man when HE wears the pants. Doers need to take charge – or at least feel as if they’re in charge. All you have to do is enjoy the ride without taking over – even if you are a Type A personality (like me) and backing off goes against your grain. Remember, these men have to be allowed to feel like men – and not just in the bedroom.

The TOUCHER: Unlike men who seem to build walls around themselves or squirm when you tickle their feet, this one is a physical communicator, the “touchy-feeling” kind of guy. He feels most loved when you reach for his hand, rub his back, or run your fingers through his hair. You know he’s a softie if he can’t get enough connecting out of the bedroom and seems to walk around with his eyes and arms wide open, always ready for hugs and kisses. So what are you waiting for?

The RECEIVER: His eyes light up with love when you surprise him with gifts. This guy will be all over you when you bring him home a coffee with cream just the way he likes it or when you’re thoughtful enough to fill up his car. Noticed holes in his socks or his almost-empty cologne bottle? Spotted an autographed baseball card you know he’ll cherish? There’s your cue!

The INTELLECT: This guy is all about verbal communication. He wants to talk ‘n share – with YOU! His job, what happened today, whatever. So listen, debate, converse. Get into his head, and let him get into yours. No cell phones please! And P.S. A few love notes (strategically placed) and some calls and texts throughout the day will put him exactly where you want him when he gets home. It’s win-win. Happy loving!!! Balloon photo credit: Brandon Christopher Warren via photopin cc Featured photo credit: Auzigog via photopin cc

About the author

Lauren Millman

Lauren Millman is a Professional Certified Coach, Counsellor, Interventionist and Behaviourist, in private practice in Toronto. She writes for business organizations and e-magazines, and is a regularly featured expert on Rogers Daytime and CTV. Lauren is all about keeping it real, and thinking outside the box to help you get-your-happy-on. She's married with three kids, is a self-confessed coffee snob, and believes you can't own too many pairs of shoes.

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