All it took was a quick look around and I found it was always the case. There was no getting around it. I was the fattest person in the room. I Was the Fattest Person in the Room and I Hated it

It took 30 long years of ignoring myself, my health and my well-being to tip the scale over three hundred pounds. As my fifty-second birthday approached, I could barely hoist myself out of a chair. I was eating myself to death, just one super-sized meal away from complete despair.

I knew that somewhere in that mass of fat, I was buried. But to fix something, you have to first identify the problem. Here, fat wasn’t the problem, it was just the result of the problem. So I took a look at my life. Every day was a non-stop blur of client projects, family obligations and daily chores, with not one moment of one day reserved for me. There was no me left in my life. And it had all come about by choice—poor choices made over and over as an excuse to not take care of myself.

I was the fattest person in the room, and then one day, I finally had enough of being my last priority.

Next page: How I lost the weight!

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  • how inspiring is that story. OMG I am so in awe of what she has accomplished.

    • Cathy Bergman

      Linda, thank you for your very kind words. Working on staying healthy and fit, one finish line at a time.

    • Cathy Bergman

      Linda, thank you so much for your very kind words.

  • $11492132

    HOLY CRAP! Incredible! So much respect.

  • cjh8516

    Wow! Congrats! Every member of HAES should read this story

  • Flatline42

    I seriously wanna give the author a hug for this. Thank you!

    • Cathy Bergman

      I shall consider myself duly hugged! I was delighted to share my story with the amazing group at Brazen Woman and so pleased that it was so very well received.

      • Flatline42

        I topped out at 340. I couldn’t stay awake and my body was starting to give me difficulties. My blood work was mostly fine, but I was right on the cusp of prediabetes and my cholesterol had inched past the threshold of “okay”.

        I had to change. I’m 59 pounds down as of this morning. Stories like yours give me hope and make me excited. There’s a lot of life I have to catch up on. So yeah. Hugs!

        • Cathy Bergman

          Holy smokes, good for you – 59 pounds down is fabulous!!! 59 hugs to you! I know that your body is thanking you every minute. Every pound out the door is going to make you feel so much better. Living life on the sidelines is just not fun – you’ll catch up believe me!! Keep on doing what you’re doing!!

  • Treason

    You are fantastically determined, congrats to you! I know what it’s like to feel your brain make that paradigm shift into actual nutritious (and enjoyable!) eating and I am so glad you got there! I hope people, obese or not, read this and are inspired to try learning about nutrition for themselves. It’s really not taught at all well in schools, at least in America. I had no idea how to eat healthy and no thought of tracking calories. I learned in my thirties, you in your fifties, it’s never too late to lean something new and interesting. 😀

    • Cathy Bergman

      Thanks for the kind words. Learning how proteins, carbs and fats work in our amazing system changed my whole understanding of how to properly fuel my body – which naturally led to weight loss. For a good majority of us, our body functions awfully well if we don’t consistently poison it with toxic foods each day… You’re right – it’s absolutely never too late to learn about nutrition – but teaching children from an early age to eat well sure would be a good idea!

  • maya

    Pure love! what an inspiration. Everything is possible if we set our minds to it, and re-prioritize! You go Cathy. Keep it up 🙂

    • Cathy Bergman

      Thanks for your kind words and support. Indeed, anything is possible – change your mind, change your world.

  • Raelys

    Thank you so much for sharing your story and journey. I am working on that journey and 80lbs lighter. You are so right about the things we learn about ourself and the happiness found along the way. This hit home for me in so many ways and so eloquently written.
    I want to share this with everyone I have talked to about my journey and, while hard, there is so much more to live, enjoy and do without the anchor of weight holding back.

    • Cathy Bergman

      Congrats on your 80 pound milestone! That’s absolutely terrific. I know it’s hard. It’s not just losing the weight, but changing habits that got us that way in the first place. But, as you are finding out, there is so much joy to be found in life when we take care of ourselves. Keep up the good work – I am certain you are inspiring many as you continue your journey.

  • Angela September

    beautiful article!!

  • Kim Zurick Altemose

    Cathy, wow, I am facing my 52nd birthday weighing in at 300 pounds. You’re so right, never time for myself..and food is just too accessible. Thanks for letting me know it’s not too late to make that change…

    • Cathy Bergman

      Kim, you are right where I was just four short years ago. It is absolutely never too late to change. If I can do it, so can you. Every day won’t be easy, but it is going to be worth it. Set your goals (not just weight related) – what do you want to be able to do? Ski? Dance? Swim? Run? Work toward a goal, not just a number on a scale – and the number on the scale will move. So let’s get started. Choose you today!

  • Yep, I topped out at 372 pounds at age 43. I’ve been working on it since May 2014 and now into the 260s. I still have a long ways to go, but have lots of goals like those that you have already achieved! I just love reading stories like yours, which keep me going even when I have days of struggle. Keep up the great work – I am cheering you on!

    • Cathy Bergman

      Amy, congratulations – that’s amazing! I know how good you feel – and how good you are going to feel! Keep at it, waking up every day full of health and energy is so empowering. Sounds like you are doing it right. Set your goals, meet your goals – then set some new ones. I know it’s not easy, in fact, some days are real tough. But believe me, it is so worth it! Wahoo for you!

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  • WriteReviseEdit

    Cathy? You rock. Your writing is superb and your candor is to be commended. I loved reading this, as it touched a nerve within me. Thank you for sharing your story about uncertainty, strength and self-love. – Christine (New York)

    • Cathy Bergman

      Christine, thanks so much for your very kind words. I enjoyed the process of writing about my journey, and I am pleased that it has been so well received. After ignoring myself and my health for so long, it’s wonderful to wake up every day fit and happy and know that the best is yet to come.
      My best to you and yours for 2016.

      • WriteReviseEdit

        Thanks … same to you and yours!!! – Christine

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