Here’s a no-brainer: We women deserve to be pleased. All the time. Especially in bed. That’s a given, right? But what if your man is, well, confused about how to make that happen?

Sadly for us, a recent survey by Promescent shows that 30% of men (that’s almost a third!) aren’t doing their job in the bedroom – and as a result, we end up suffering. Lots.

Did you know?

  • 40% of women achieve orgasm less than half of the times they have sex, yet 20% are too shy to tell their man
  • More than half of us complain that our man climaxes within 5 minutes, and 23% are done in two minutes
  • It takes most women 17 minutes to reach orgasm

The good news is that thanks to dating and sex expert Dr. Emily Morse, there is help on the way. Here are her tips to help our men help us. Reach the Big O, that is.


1. Communication is lubrication

If you don’t learn to communicate with your partner about your sex life, you won’t be able to have a long term, fulfilling sex life. Many couples have no problem communicating with each other, except when it comes to sex. Whether you’ve been together for six months or six years, talking about sex is the only way you’re going to get exactly what you want in bed.

2. Ask and ye shall receive

Be clear, honest and open about your desires and what you like and dislike about your sex life. If you don’t know how to please your partner, speak up. Ask what she likes, what she fantasizes about and if she doesn’t know, then try to figure it out together. Buy some toys, read or watch erotica or talk about your favourite sexual memories together. These activities will lead you to discovering what turns each other on.

3. Never stop experimenting

Keep experimenting with new techniques and touches because the more aroused a woman gets, the more her sensitivity level rises. Don’t stop at one point on her body because she seems to be enjoying it. Make a round of visits to her most sensitive spots regularly and you’ll be sure to please her all over.

4. Slow down

Don’t rush through sex. Instead, go three times slower than you think you should. That goes for kissing, touching and even when she’s about to climax. The more you bring her to point of heightened arousal, and then slow down, the more turned on she will be. When she can’t anticipate your next move, she’ll be even more aroused.

5. Keep on kissing

In relationships, kissing is often the first thing that falls by the wayside. Men get in the habit of rushing right to intercourse. However, foreplay, like kissing, is a requirement, not a suggestion. Women get turned on by passionate kissing so if you feel she’s not turned on or is losing interest, just play with kissing her in different ways, moving your tongue and altering the speed and places you kiss her. Hint: the neck is a highly erogenous yet often ignored spot on a woman’s body.

PS. If you’re still struggling, and need a product that prolongs sex, consider Promescent. Any sense of embarrassment will vanish when you give her that mind-blowing orgasm.

Dr. Emily Morse is a sex expert and host of the top downloaded sex and relationship advice podcast Sex with Emily. She has helped millions of people have the sex and relationships they want but could not figure out how to get. Emily has been voted the #1 dating and sex expert by and the #1 dating and sex expert to follow on Twitter.

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