OK, so it seems there are two kinds of lovers in this world. There are those who have been waiting all year for February 14 when love is all there is. They’ve got their Valentine’s card all picked out, having spent way too many hours browsing the Hallmark section. They’re busy shopping for just what he needs, and pretty darn sure they’re getting just what they want—a lovely prize for being in a relationship.
And then there are the rest of us. You know who we are. The deeper we get into February, the more we’re under pressure to perform. We know we have to get out there and find the perfect card and the perfect gift (and maybe even the perfect lover) and time is a-ticking. Meanwhile, we can’t quite put our finger on why we’re getting queasier by the day.
Well, according to Dr. Frieda Birnbaum, maybe it’s because this.
10 WAYS VALENTINE’S DAY SUCKS (AND IS WAY OVERRATED)
1. Expectation & Disappointment
You expect the perfect date and gift and it doesn’t go the way you envisioned it and therefore it’s only a matter of time before you find yourself becoming increasingly somber and disappointed.
Everywhere you turn—computer, TV, radio, malls, and everywhere else—retailers are selling love. They would have you believe that if you don’t purchase LOTS of items for that special someone in your life for Valentine’s Day, you don’t LOVE them enough. And vice versa.
3. Lack of Personalization
Why is there this obligation for everyone to celebrate love and romance on the same day of the year? Shouldn’t you be doing this on your anniversary, a day that you actually chose that carries just a little more significance?
4. Ridiculously Pricey Chocolates
A 20$ markup just because they are in a heart-shaped box that will end up in the recycling bin.
5. Crowded Restaurants
For some reason, you feel lucky if you snag a reservation. And you’ll subject yourself to waiting two hours to get a table at a packed restaurant, just because it’s Valentine’s Day. (Can’t we just agree to celebrate Valentine’s Day on the 15th or 16th?)
6. The Outcast
If you’re alone on Valentine’s Day, everyone assumes you are terribly depressed. But think about it: A person who is alone might very well be much happier than a couple in an awful relationship on Valentine’s Day.
7. Teddy Bears
8. Once-A-Year “I Love You”
Valentine’s Day presumes that it is the one day of the year to tell that special someone in your life that you love him. Wait. If you tell someone you love them only ONE day of the year, chances are, you don’t really love them.
9. Pressure On Your Significant Other
In addition to simply putting up with you, your partner feels extreme pressure to give you the perfect Valentine’s Day. This is can be very stressful not to mention a huge risk.
10. It’s Not Important
NY Metropolitan Based Dr. Frieda Birnbaum is a Research Psychologist, Psychoanalyst and Author of What Price Power: An In-Depth Study of the Professional Woman in a Relationship. She’s an expert on depression, women’s issues, and attaining happiness. Birnbaum has been featured on Oprah and 20/20 as the oldest Mom in the USA to have twins.